Monday, 19 December 2016

What's really happening in Syria??!

Every day we are being bombarded with headlines and heartbreaking images of the conflict in Syria...and media information about the crisis is often so confusing or biased that it's easy to give up trying to understand. 


When the Rwandan Genocide finally came to an end, the world asked 'How did we not know this was happening? '... and I fear that the same will be true for Syria. 

So, based on a number of sources, I have compiled a brief history of Syria,  the events leading to this civil war and how it has unfolded over the past 6 years. And I finish with some ways that you can engage with these events as a global citizen and make a difference for those affected by the conflict. 
This will be a slightly longer post than usual,  but I encourage you to hang in there with me, this is important stuff, and we absolutely need to be aware of what's really happening.



The original Syrian civilisation is one of the worlds most ancient, situated on the Fertile Crescent,  it was home to some of the first agriculture practices. In fact, Ebla, a city excavated in Syria is thought to be as old as 3000 BC and contained one of the oldest written languages in the world.

Over time it was conquered by many ancient empires,  and gained it's name Syria from Alexander the Great, derived from its older name Assyria  (yes, this is the Assyrians spoken of in the bible ). It was later captured by the Romans and several hundred years after the decline of the Roman Empire,  Syria was conquered by Muslim Arabs,  bringing it's power under the Islamic Empire.

The land was in constant turmoil and chaos for hundreds of years, thrown between several people power groups until the Ottoman Empire conquered the land in 1516 and it experienced a relatively peaceful period until 1918.

At the end of WW1 secret empire divisions led to Syria being under French control in 1920, leading to revolts,  protests and unsuccessful treaties. By 1946 Syria was oficially independent but had a very unstable government. The power of the country was mostly in its military rather than in its presidency.

During the 1940s  Syria became involved in the Arab-Israeli  war, sparking 3 coup d'etats. In 1970 a bloodless coup ushered a new era for the Syrian people with president Hafez al-Assad taking power, later to be succeeded in 2000 by his brother Bashar al-Assad. This family was to be in power during the current civil war and played a big part in the deep division within the country.

Still with me? This brings us up to speed with the last 5000 years or so, from here it will be about this most recent civil war, but it is important to see the current conflict against its ancient context of power struggle, conquests and division. 

In 2011, Syria, inspired by peaceful protests that brought about governmental change in Egypt, began similar protests against the dictatorship of Assad. The war is thought to have started in March 2011 when teenagers who had painted revolutionary slogans on a school wall were arrested and allegedly tortured. This sparked demonstrations during which government security opened fire, killing several demonstrators. This triggered national uprisings demanding the resignation of President Assad, and the government unfortunately responded with violence, hardening the protestors resolve.

As violence escalated, the country descended into civil war, rebel brigades battling government forces for the control of cities,reaching capital Damascus and large city Aleppo in 2012. By August 2015 the death toll is thought to be around 250,000 people.

However the conflict has become more than those for or against Mr Assad as religious sects have become a significant aspect. The Sunni majority against the president's Shia Alawite sect and then further complicated by the rise of ISIS.

It is important to understand that there is no good or bad side to this war. All parties have evidence against them for  murder, rape, dissappearances,  torture and using civilian suffering as a war tool (eg, blocking access to food, water and health care).
Since the start of the war 4.5 million refugees have fled, rowing across oceans, walking hundreds of miles or risking their lives with corrupt people smugglers. Friends, that is the entire population of New Zealand needing to leave and most having nowhere to go and no one to help. This is the largest refugee exodus in recent history.... not even taking into account the further 6.5 million internally displaced people within the country.

The picture seems very bleak for the Syrians, but we cannot afford to become overwhelmed and drop the issue. We are a global world now and living in a different country does not give us the luxury of being uninvolved. 
I've compiled a list of 6 things that almost everyone can do to be a part of the solution...

1)  PRAY. Yes, sometimes it's hard to know what to pray when the problem seems so big but remember that God is still bigger and He has promised that when His people would humble themselves and pray He would hear our prayers and heal our land...

2)  Welcome refugees in the cities and countries you live in. I know Dunedin, where I am based has received 40 refugees last year, kids who ae now going to school, parents needing to learn English.... become involved in their lives if you have the opportunity,  make them feel like they have a home here.

3)  Donate money to one of the many organizations that have people on the ground in Syria directly affecting the lives of citizens and refugees there. Some of these for New Zealand include World Vision, Amnesty International and UNICEF. Even $5 makes a difference when someone is hungry, sick or needing to escape.

4 )  Read beyond the headlines. This has been a frustrating thing for me to see a headline saying words like "Hundreds being massacred in Eastern Aleppo" tucked between a photo of a friends Hawaii holiday and an advertisement for car insurance on Facebook.  Headlines are like pickup lines, you can't base your relationship on them... take the time to look a little deeper.

5)  Start conversations about the civil war. I realise it's not exactly fun dinner conversation but it's incredibly important. I've realised most people are under the impression the war started last year and that everyone is bombing everyone else.... if you know a little more than that, start conversation to raise awareness about the events.

6)  And finally, support your Middle Eastern friends. Even though they may not be personally affected by the war, many will be experiencing a deep sense of unrest and grief about what is happening in Syria. Ask questions about their thoughts on it all, be aware that Westerners can make ignorant and hurtful comments about events such as this without thinking who is in the room.... look out for your friends

Sunday, 30 October 2016

Breaking News?


How do I keep up with the news without losing my mind?



That was my question today as I tried without much success to understand what is actually happening in Syria and what the political debates in the US are about beyond the insults, slander and dragging up old ghosts.
And it led me to start thinking about the whole system of news and media that we have found ourselves navigating without a lot of guidance.

Let me start with a disclaimer: I believe it is of huge importance to have an up to date understanding of significant world events happening in our nation and around the world. As a human, I cannot separate my existence from things such as civil war, climate change and poverty. And as a christian, I don't think I am walking in the way of love if I am unaware or apathetic about the suffering of people around the world. All this to say that I am in no way suggesting people shouldn't try to stay up to date with global news. Rather, I am questioning the nature, delivery and receiving of media.

When I get to work in the morning and open my internet browser, the system is set so that a news website is the homepage and before I even have a chance to start doing some work, I have to either ignore or navigate a dozen headlines all claiming to be 'Breaking News' that is worthy of being read Right Now.
I'm not concerned about having a news website as my homepage, there is definitely worse things that could come up. But what I am concerned about is that on this particular site, all the headlines get the same priority and significance. The brutal, incessant and accelerating civil war in Syria was given the same space and priority as "12 child celebrities you would never believe look so good as adults". There are certain things that I simply should not know about. For example, I have never met Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, we're certainly not friends and I should not be able to read their divorce file. But I can.
In the words of Rob Bell, celebrity media is a "multi billion dollar industry designed to recreate the high school experience". There are cool kids and popular groups and bullies and all of the craziness that we're supposedly leaving behind at graduation but I'm still, in my mid twenties, trying to avoid it.

The other aspect of news that I'm struggling with right now is the timing (or lack thereof) and rhythm of it all.
In the natural world, everything has a rhythm, a cycle, a pattern to it. The seasons are predictably beautiful every year, the water gets from alpine springs to ocean to sky in the same way again and again. Birds, bison and bull sharks migrate in the same direction every year, and even our human bodies have sleep cycles, menstrual cycles and digestive cycles. I cannot think of a single natural system that does not operate in a rhythmic way of being. My conclusion from this is that there must be some wisdom in it. It works.

News on the other hand, no longer has any rhythm or cycle or predictable pattern to it. Gone are the days of the morning paper and evening news, now there is breaking news every 15 minutes, you can know about Taylor Swifts breakup before her boyfriend does and it just NEVER STOPS.
Which is fine if you don't access it, but now push notifications mean that I can go for a run along the harbor at sunset and not miss out on the drunken antics of the All Blacks after their latest game.

There is so much coming in, all the time. It's complicated, unrelated, loud and for the most part entirely irrelevant to our lives and what we consider to be important. There is no rhythm, rest or pattern. Is it any wonder that we have ever increasing rates of anxiety, attention deficit disorders and stress related illnesses?

This post doesn't even touch on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and similar social tools, but the same principles apply for all of those and it's effects are magnified, the more points of access into this world someone has.

The overall message of this is hopeful, because even though there is endless noise and chaos you can access at any time (not even the toilet is safe from this stuff anymore)... You don't have to let it in.
You are the curator of your own mind. You choose what comes into your brain and you choose what is important, relevant and significant for the kind of life you want to lead.
If you would rather not have your family time interrupted by the breaking news that Auckland got ten minutes of hail, that's up to you.

Friends, be aware of what is coming into your mind. There is limited capacity for concentration, ideas, creativity and connection... Use it on the things that are important to you.

Thursday, 6 October 2016

Relationships 101: Welcome to the School of the Top 40


Relationship 101: School of the Top 40

Recently I have been doing some work with a community youth support service and met some incredible young people who are charging into adulthood where they will take their place as the parents, teachers, counsellors and leaders of the next generation.

But something I’ve noticed is how much these young people listen to music… all day every day they are listening to, singing out loud, reading and absorbing the lyrics in the popular singles that are topping the charts.

As youth navigating in an adult world, they are learning how to relate to other people, how to communicate needs and desires, how to treat a woman and what it looks like to be in a relationship… And for many of these kids, none of the adults in their personal life are having these conversations with them. So naturally, they will learn these skills from the other adults in their world who are willing to share their wisdom… namely, Rihanna, Drake, Ariana Grande and Pink.

Based on a brief scan of the current Top 40, here’s some of the lyrics that are a part of shaping the relational understanding of our youth.

Warning: Some of this content is disturbing, racist and violent

 

“I torture you
Take my hand through the flames
I torture you
I'm a slave to your games
I'm just a sucker for pain
I wanna chain you up
I wanna tie you down
I'm just a sucker for pain”

 

“She from Africa but she fucks me like she Haitian
Ass black, but them eyes looking Asian
I gave her the can in Kansas
I got it on tape, she on candid camera
OKC I forgot we met in Oklahoma
I use to smoke Regina, she from Arizona
Then I met a girl in Cali I never disowned her
She got that high grade
Her weave come with diplomas, I want her”



I don't need eyes to see
I felt you touchin' me
High like amphetamine
Maybe you're just a dream
That's what it means to crush
Now that I'm wakin' up
I still feel the blow
But at least now I know

It wasn't love, it wasn't love
It was a perfect illusion
Mistaken for love, it wasn't love
It was a perfect illusion”



I go on and on
Can't understand how I last so long
I must have the superpowers
Last 223 thousand hours

It's cause I'm off of CC
And I'm off the Hennessy

And like your boy from Compton said
You know this dick ain't free!

I got girls that I shoulda made pay for it
Got girls that I shoulda made wait for it

Got girls that'll cancel a flight back home
Stay another day for it


I'm talkin' to ya
See you standing over there with your body
Feeling like I wanna rock with your body
And we don't gotta think 'bout nothin'
I'm comin' at ya
'Cause I know you got a bad reputation
Doesn't matter, 'cause you give me temptation
And we don't gotta think 'bout nothin'”

 

“Something don't feel right
Because it ain't right
Especially comin' up after midnight
I smell your secret, and I'm not too perfect
To ever feel this worthless
How did it come down to this?
Scrolling through your call list
I don't wanna lose my pride, but I'm a fuck me up a bitch
Know that I kept it sexy, and know I kept it fun
There's something that I'm missing, maybe my head for one

What's worse, lookin' jealous or crazy, jealous or crazy?
Or like being walked all over lately, walked all over lately
I'd rather be crazy”

 

Thanks to our Top 40, now you can get an education in relationships for free. The message coming through loud and clear is that relationships are about sex primarily and that jealousy and insecurity are attractive. They are learning about how the mind and emotions don’t matter as long as your body is available and that nothing is meant to last very long, as soon as a relationship requires work then walk away and find the next thrill.

If you are an adult with young people in your world, youth that you care about, that you want to see in healthy respectful relationships where they are empowered and shown they have worth…

Then please have the courage to start conversations about boundaries and respect and love. Don’t allow Drake and Ariana to be your teenagers teacher when it comes to the important stuff.

Friday, 19 August 2016

#Blessed?

Many times it's been explained to me that I'm blessed to be born in a free country, to have a job, to always have enough food.
Tag lines like Blessed to be a Blessing, Be thankful for how blessed you are to grow up like this occasionally resurface like old records.
I agree with this, but there is something missing.

If I was born into a war torn nation, or grew up not eating three meals a day... am I no longer blessed?
Why is the blessing of God measured suspiciously similar to GDP and the decile system sometimes?

When I was thinking about all this, I did a Facebook search for #blessed....   Without fail, everything that came up related to having healthy and loving families, holidays to beautiful places, getting promoted, being sickness and injury free and celebrating good times...

But then, I can't help noticing that Jesus' version of #blessed from Matthew 5 has a slightly different flavour of the month.
Blessed are the poor
Blessed are those who mourn
Blessed are the humble
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for justice
Blessed are the merciful
Blessed are the pure of heart
Blessed are the peacemakers
Blessed are those who are persecuted for their righteousness

Jesus has always been radically counter cultural to the ways of the empire. If His people can look beyond happiness, opportunity and wealth as proof of living a blessed life, we might encounter the deep mysterious wonder of the gospel in a way that we never could living in the fast lane of #blessed.



Monday, 11 April 2016

The gift of vulnerability

I don't know anyone who consciously believes that they are perfect, no one who genuinely thinks they've got themselves all sorted out. We all know that we have areas of weakness and that we make mistakes sometimes, and we are aware that other people do too... But despite this communal awareness of imperfection, we have a culture that is saturated with messages of perfection and it leads us to hide our weakness, to feel shame about mistakes.

And so we don't talk about it. We put our best side forward and act like we know what we're doing.

But what I'm realising is that when I do that, it does more damage than I knew.
It works like this...
When I hide and feel shame about my own weakness and inability to measure up, then I will inevitably communicate the message that in order to be accepted by me, other people must treat their own brokenness in the same way. 
We know this from experience. You trust the people who are honest about the hard stuff and you feel like you can be real with them. Why is this?
It's because with their vulnerability, they've communicated the message that weakness and struggle are an accepted part of this relationship.

People who are honest and accepting of their own weaknesses create around them a space in which it is safe for other to do the same. And in a world where from a very young age people are taught the language of shame, they're taught that they need to appear strong and competent... then to offer the gift of imperfection and weakness is priceless. 


Wednesday, 10 February 2016

6 baby steps to a more sustainable ethical lifestyle


If asked, most people would say that they value sustainability, fair trading and ethical production of goods. There aren't many people who enjoy intentionally trashing the planet and exploiting other people, so we'll start with that as an assumption.
However, lack of knowledge, location and lack of money often mean that our values remain at the ideals level rather than being a reality in our everyday lives.

For a long time I believed that if I was to live a sustainable and ethical lifestyle it would mean I had to get free range chickens, install solar panels, make my own clothes and drink organic soy milk straight from the plant...  And while this might be a slight exaggeration, I believe this is a view many people still hold.
So, here I've explained six simple and easy changes you can make which go a long way in making our culture one that treasures the natural resources of the earth and gives value and dignity to her global citizens, which to be honest seems like a pretty common sense way of living.

1. Take reusable shopping bag when you go grocery shopping. Supermarkets go through millions of these every year, most of them ending up in landfill. NZ laws mean that recycled plastics cannot come into contact with food so it can be hard to find uses for the bags that do get recycled. You can keep a few material bags in your car or somewhere easy to grab on the way out the door.... They can carry more weight and are much easier to hold than plastic bags and there's no risk of your groceries spilling out all over the road when your 6 gram plastic bag splits!

2. Check out local op shops or thrift stores. When I was younger I had a passionate dislike for these places, I saw them as dirty, filled with old clothes that smelled like their last owners. Now that I have to be an adult and buy my own clothes, my opinions have dramatically changed! Op shops generally do a fantastic job at cleaning and sorting their clothing to filter out unbearable items and it can be an adventure shopping there! Not to mention that you can get clothes for $2 that would have cost $40 new. There's also the benefit of knowing you're not contributing to the fast fashion crisis that is ravaging our neighbors around the world. If this is something you're unfamiliar with, check out my previous posts on the fashion industry.

3. If you can afford it, choose the fair trade option for coffee, chocolate, bananas and other food items. People tell me they can't justify paying an extra three dollars for a block of chocolate... And I think "can you justify paying an extra three dollars to ensure the workers involved in producing it are treated with dignity and have a chance to give their families a future?"
I'm not being harsh. I'm being real.
If you can't afford to choose a fair trade option, maybe you should ask yourself whether it's really worth the true cost of buying the cheaper product.

4. Use your legs. Driving around town is faster, easier, you stay dry and you don't have to carry things. I get it. But when you choose to walk, you are lowering your carbon footprint, experiencing firsthand the community you live in and probably doing your waistline a favor too. You won't always be able to choose to walk due to distance or children etc, but make a habit of questioning whether you really need the car today and you'll find yourself pumping those legs much more often!

5. Buy a good drink bottle. Yes, plastic bottles can be reused for sure, but before long they become kind of scummy


looking and the chemicals in the plastic aren't amazing for you either. If you invest in a solid plastic or metal drink bottle, you look way cooler and make a stand against our never ending disposable culture.

6. Start conversations. Conversations about ethical and sustainable living should never be relegated to the realms of hippies, home-schoolers and policy makers. Oh that this topic would be a common occurrence in our families, churches,  workplaces and classrooms! Ask good questions, let yourself be challenged by others opinions, be open minded about this stuff.